I am writing this in recognition of my shadow side, a part of me that I’ve done my level best to ignore and reject, up until now that is. My forties are about self-protection and acceptance, not self-destruction. My wish for you dear reader, is that if you haven’t already arrived at this epicentre, you learn your lesson early and avoid the discomfort involved in trying to rid yourself of an essential part of who you are. For, to be whole, you have to be the sum of all your parts!

When I refer to my shadow side, I mean all the very human petty jealousies, unpleasant cruel thoughts, externally directed anger…